As I navigated to become a better person, I decided to document my transition using the change from
three words to four words.
| The Threes | The Fours |
|---|---|
| I don’t know | I can do better |
| I was wrong | I will do better |
| I am sorry | I want your feedback |
| Let’s move on | Here’s what I need |
| You are important | Can you teach me? |
| I love you | It’s important to me |
| I need help | I disagree, let’s talk |
| I will improve | |
| Can you help | |
| I am listening | |
| I am listening |
In my many, many years of being what I thought was a good lover, a good father, a good leader, a good
husband, and a good friend—all these years of not being genuine, not working on myself—at no time did
I seek self-improvement, and my vocabulary was absent of the threes to the fours. Now, my vocabulary
consists primarily of the threes and the fours.
But the consequences are dire.
As I sit at home, looking at the beauty of Grand County, the greatness of the landscape, the silence, and the peace, I’d give it all up just to say “I was wrong” to those I have wronged; “I am sorry” to those I have
hurt; and “I love you” to those I have loved. I missed my opportunity. Don’t miss yours. Follow the threes
and take them to the fours.
- Take a minute and put your version of threes to fours together. What are you going to do to change?
- Which of my threes give you the most difficulty? The most inspiration? How about the fours? Why?